In response to “Date a girl who reads” I have this to say:
Marry a girl who is filled with the Holy Spirit. The girl who spends more of her time working on her inner beauty instead of worrying about her outer beauty. She has a problem with storage space, as in, no place to store up anger, fear, envy, anxiety, resentment, or any other type of baggage. Marry a girl who has a list of qualities she would like to see more of in herself, who has made a commitment to the Lord to grow and give good fruits.
Find a girl who is filled with the Holy Spirit. You’ll know that she is because she is the one who is prudent about her appearance, discreet in her speech, and wears a joyful smile. She’s the one who extends her hand out to those who need guidance and prayer, the one who cries for the lost souls, the one who cries out in favor of the church of God. Do you see the girl who is evangelizing the poor, the suffering, the sick, and the imprisoned? That’s her. They can never see someone who is suffering without stopping what she’s doing in order to give words of comfort and hope.
She’s the girl evangelizing while waiting in line at the supermarket, the coffee shop, the bank. If you take a peek at her handbag, you will find invitations and fliers to the church. She lives in the spiritual world, she does not see a rude woman who just cut in front of her in line, she sees someone who is so stressed out she can barely keep it together, someone who needs a person to talk to. Talk to her, she will have words of encouragement to give you as well.
Buy her a book by her favorite Christian author and not another handbag, she will thank you.
Let her know what you read in the Bible recently. Share your thoughts on the verse and ask her to share hers. Understand that if she says she needs to grow more in the Holy Spirit, she is being humble.
It’s easy to marry a girl who is filled with the Holy Spirit. But the hard work comes in maintaining the marriage year after year, through whatever comes, growing stronger together. Know that if you do marry her, she will be the greatest blessing you can receive, aside from the Holy Spirit himself who dwells within you as well. Give her the gift of understanding, of patience, of love which will never grow cold. Let her know that you understand that love in itself is an emotion, but the act of love will never waver, will never die. It is the constant self-sacrifice that allowed her to receive the Holy Spirit in the first place and she wouldn’t want to let Him or you go. Understand that she will always fight against the devil and that as a team in the kingdom of God, you are in the battle as well.
Don’t lie to her. The alarms will go off and she will know that if you can lie to her, then you can also try to deceive God and you are now unsuitable for her. Her relationship with Him is first and foremost and she would rather that you left her than losing her place in the kingdom of God.
She will know that you are not perfect, it is a daily growth toward perfection, but she will not despair when she finds fault in you. She is not perfect either, she is not on the lookout for your faults, and she looks inside herself always.
Why be frightened of who you are? She understands that you are human and prone to weakness. Acknowledge them and move on, beginning again the next day.
If you find a girl you like who is filled with the Holy Spirit, and you marry her, keep her close. When you find her awake at 3am, praying and searching for the Holy Spirit, join her. You may lose her during her time alone with God, but she will always come back to you, refreshed and ready to give more. She’ll share the richness of her communion with God and be the blessing in your life once again.
You will propose to her when both of you are ready to take that leap of faith. It doesn’t matter where or how, she will focus on you instead of the place. But still, a nice restaurant will do better than an alley next to a dumpster, be careful with her, she is a jewel in your hands.
You will be so happy that you will thank God and give Him praise for allowing such a lovely woman into your life. You will begin your journey together. She will introduce your children to Jesus Christ the day they are born. You will walk the path set forth by God and she will hold your hand through whatever problems arise.
Marry a girl who is filled with the Holy Spirit. Not because you deserve her, but because God created her for you and you for her. Marry a girl who will add to your life and not subtract from it.
If you want to enter the kingdom of God, be filled with the Holy Spirit all the days of your life and marry a girl who will not be a rock in your path, but a faithful helper along the way.
by your servant in Christ,
Carol Vizcarra
by your servant in Christ,
Carol Vizcarra